SEX: The 4 Domains Are Found EVERYWHERE...even in your pants... so to speak

Because I teach Human Sexuality I always scan the news for interesting articles about sexuality. I came across this article (click on SEX: The 4 Domains... to read the whole article) that discusses research conducted at the University of Texas at Austin. They found 237 reasons Sapes have sex. These reasons ranged from the logical to the ridiculous.

What I found most interesting about the article is that they took these 237 reasons and put them into 4 categories... and I quote:

"Physical: “The person had beautiful eyes” or “a desirable body,” or “was good kisser” or “too physically attractive to resist.” Or “I wanted to achieve an orgasm.”

Goal Attainment: “I wanted to even the score with a cheating partner” or “break up a rival’s relationship” or “make money” or “be popular.” Or “because of a bet.”

Emotional: “I wanted to communicate at a deeper level” or “lift my partner’s spirits” or “say ‘Thank you.’ ” Or just because “the person was intelligent.”

Insecurity: “I felt like it was my duty” or “I wanted to boost my self-esteem” or “It was the only way my partner would spend time with me.”"

Now lets see how the 4 Domains fit in here...

Insecurity: PHYLO...why? Because PHYLOs are the bonders and are often worried about taking care of everyone else's needs otherwise those other Sapes may not continue to like them.

Goal Attainment: ONTO...why? Because ONTOs are extremely goal oriented. There is often an ulterior motive for them to have sex. Some examples might be (now ONTOs don't get pissed at me...you know these ideas have crossed your mind) to get someone to do your bidding, to get even with someone or piss someone else off.

Emotional: ECO...why? When we discussed this in class, many students thought "emotional" would be a PHYLO reason but it's not. ECOs are very empathic and they want to connect with other Sapes on a deep and intimate level. Sex is one avenue to connect spirit to spirit, if you will.

Physical: EXO...why? Because EXO is an external domain and it's a What You See Is What You Get (WYSIWYG) situation. EXOs connect easier physically than they do emotionally.

What are your thoughts? Those of you who know your primary domain please give us some insight into your experience and let us know if you agree or disagree with the above.

As an ECO I will tell you that it's dead on for me...

Shining Up My ECO Connector,

Professor Val

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